Some connections just seem to work. Individuals find they click with a co-worker or a friend in ways that can’t be readily described… so we call this connection or spark, “chemistry.” Chemistry in a relationship can happen organically, but when it comes to a romantic partner, this element may need to be fostered in order to blossom.
But, how can one find that special spark and kindle it?
Great question! These seven tips will help couples who are wondering how to build chemistry in a relationship to forge a healthy, thriving connection.
1. Ask each other deep questions
When getting to know a new potential partner, it can sometimes be a challenge to get past initial pleasantries. A solid relationship is built on a foundation of mutual respect and understanding. Not every relationship begins with sparkling romantic chemistry. Shocking, right? Asking a partner larger, open ended questions about their dreams, goals, and views on life is a start. Delve deeper. Even partners who have been together for a long time can learn something new about each other. The more one knows about one’s partner, the more trust can be built. The right questions can allow individuals to discover more differences which can be complementary and exciting.
2. Don’t over-think
Couples at any stage in a relationship can over think their communication. This is especially true in the first stages of getting to know each other. Chemistry comes from diving in and taking chances. Romantic chemistry can come and go depending on moods and it’s best not to overthink it. A healthy relationship creates space for individuals to adjust to one another. If it feels right, give it a try. If not, pass or leave it until another time. Resist the temptation to make assumptions, or jump to conclusions about time spent together, and if one feels interested in spending more, communicate this.
3. Spend time apart
In the initial stages of a relationship, it can be tempting to spend many waking hours together. This is important as it helps build a foundation of trust and clear communication, and allows one to learn whether or not a partner has long term potential. Taking a breather can also be important, however. Individuals need more social interaction than that provided by their partner for life balance. If a spark is lacking when it was once there, spend time apart. Go see a friend for the day (or the weekend), and give each other room to move. In many cases, absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
4. Role play a first date
First encounters can be exciting. To reignite that initial spark, role play a first date. Was it in a cafe? Were both parties nervous? Did individuals hold the door for each other? Was there a moment of hesitation? Rekindling the mood of a first date can bring back initial feelings of attraction that can bloom into something new. This doesn’t need to be done in the exact location as a first date but can also be done at home, or in one similar to the original. If the very same restaurant or patio is available, however, this could be key.
5. Explore beyond the comfort zone
Couples can easily find a routine and stick to it. Additional rewards come, however, when exploring outside a normal comfort zone. By engaging in new activities, one can learn more about their partner and encounter occasions to explore uncharted emotions and share deeper feelings. Try learning a new skill together, going sailing, visiting a small town, or going on a hike. Living new experiences together builds shared memories that can create a lasting connection.
6. Pay attention to body language
According to Albert Mehrabian, a psychology professor at the University of California, up to 55% of human communication is non-verbal. To connect with a partner, pay attention to eye contact, hand gestures, and facial expressions. Body language sends a clear message. Engage in touching hands, and be attentive to responses. Act naturally and engage on a level that feels right.
7. Schedule time to spend together
Busy lives can draw couples apart. Spending time together is essential for chemistry to build and feelings to grow. If weekdays are particularly packed, set aside time on weekends to connect. Without enough time spent together, feelings of attraction can wither. Every relationship is different but experts advise trying to spend 70% of time together and 30% apart. Chemistry requires both individuals to be relaxed and able to focus attention on the moment.
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