Last month, CNN published an article entitled: “Has Tinder Replaced Dating with Hookup Culture?” Feel free to read it all the way through, but mostly it’s one commentator’s perspective on “hook-up culture” in general.
For instance, one fellow referenced is named Alex, a guy who works on Wall Street (naturally) who is able to have sex with as many as 100 women a month thanks to app-enabled dating.
CNN, Alex, and his brand of antics aside, this sort of thing is becoming a big topic of conversation. If you’ve never checked out The Good Men Project before, take a look. Just this past weekend, the “Unspoken Rules of Dating and Sex: How to Get By in the Hook-Up Culture” advised the following to survive on the sexual battlefield:
You must not date anyone younger than you, or anyone “too old” for you.
You must wait approximately three days after a first date before you contact someone again.
You must never assume the person you are sleeping with is only sleeping with you.
The only acceptable time to send a text to “hang out” or to ask someone to “come over” (i.e. to hook-up) is after midnight.
It is never acceptable to text your new “friend” after a hookup, unless to ensure he/she arrived home safely. (We’re assuming follow-up repartee is verboten.)
If you ever send a text message, and the other party does not respond, do not send another message until they do first.
You must not consume any more than two drinks on a date. You must only get buzzed, never drunk. (We actually like this one.)
The time it takes for you to respond to a text message must be equivalent or approximate to the time you waited for that text message.
Hmm. Sounds an awful lot like that retro-gender-bias sensation of the 90’s, “The Rules.” Maybe it’s just us, but with all of the hype surrounding hookup culture, isn’t the idea that it makes finding romantic connections easier?
Given we’re biased, since our mission is to help people to find healthy, fulfilling love relationships, we’re still curious to hear your thoughts on all of this. What are we missing? Possible benefits? Pitfalls heretofore unexamined?
It doesn’t look like this trend is going anywhere soon (unless we have something to say about it)… so, where do you think it’s taking us, really?
Love,
Your Tawkify Team
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