Ghosting Warning Signs: Insights from Tawkify Matchmakers

Dating can be challenging, and one of the more frustrating experiences many singles face is ghosting. Ghosting happens when someone suddenly cuts off all communication without explanation, leaving the other person feeling confused and hurt. To help you recognize the early signs of ghosting, Tawkify’s matchmakers—Melissa Rogers, Alyssa Bunn, and Kimia Monsoor—offer their professional insights based on years of experience working with singles.

What is Ghosting, and Why Does It Happen?

Ghosting is often driven by a person’s discomfort with confrontation or lack of interest, but the reasons can vary. These behaviors reflect the ghoster’s inability to communicate their feelings honestly. Tawkify’s matchmakers have identified common behaviors that may signal an impending ghosting, allowing you to spot the red flags early and avoid unnecessary heartache.

Melissa Rogers’ Ghosting Red Flags

Melissa Rogers, a professional matchmaker at Tawkify, shares these key behaviors that often indicate a ghoster is in the making:

1. The “Impersonal” Ghoster

Rogers highlights how some people avoid sharing personal information during dates, a sign they may not be interested in a future relationship. “When a person doesn’t reciprocate your openness, it can indicate they are emotionally distancing themselves,” she explains.

2. The “I’ll Come to You, Don’t Come to Me” Ghoster

According to Rogers, another warning sign is when someone repeatedly comes to your place but never invites you into their personal space. “This shows they are keeping boundaries—mentally and physically—and it can signal they’re not fully invested,” she notes.

3. The “Screen-Obsessed but Can’t Text Back” Ghoster

Rogers emphasizes that if someone is glued to their phone when you’re together but ignores your texts later, it’s a clear red flag. “Run! Consistent communication matters,” she advises.

Alyssa Bunn’s Take on Ghosting Behavior

Alyssa Bunn, another expert matchmaker at Tawkify, shares additional signs that should raise concern:

1. The “Third-Shift Responder”

“If someone only responds past midnight, that’s a clear signal they might not be taking things seriously,” Bunn warns. “Everyone can make time for what matters to them.”

2. The “Too Many Grandmothers” Ghoster

Bunn humorously points out how excessive excuses—like multiple ailing grandmothers—are often a way to avoid making real plans. “It becomes suspicious when excuses pile up,” she says.

3. Disappearing from Social Media

Ghosters often erase their online presence when they lose interest. Bunn explains, “If they vanish from a dating app or social media where you met, it’s probably a sign they’re moving on.”

4. The “Hit-or-Miss Communicator”

According to Bunn, if someone’s communication patterns become unpredictable, it’s time to reconsider their intentions. “Inconsistent communication signals waning interest,” she observes.

5. The “Never-Ending Texting Game”

“If someone truly wants to see you, they’ll make it happen,” Bunn emphasizes. “Be wary of people who keep conversations in text but never make real plans.”

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Kimia Monsoor’s Insights on Ghosting Red Flags

Kimia Monsoor offers additional advice for spotting ghosters before it’s too late:

1. Delayed Responses Beyond 24 Hours

Monsoor believes that waiting more than a day to respond is a warning sign. “If someone really likes you, they’ll reply promptly—even if they’re busy,” she says.

2. Hesitation to Connect on Social Media

“If someone avoids connecting with you on platforms like Instagram or Facebook after spending time together, they might not be serious about the relationship,” Monsoor advises.

3. Trusting Your Instincts

Monsoor reminds singles to trust their gut. “If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore your intuition,” she stresses.

Managing the Emotional Impact of Ghosting

Ghosting can feel like rejection, but it’s important to remember that it often reflects the other person’s emotional immaturity. Coping strategies include practicing self-care, seeking support from friends, and setting healthy boundaries moving forward.

Preventing Ghosting in Future Relationships

While it’s impossible to control others’ actions, there are ways to reduce the likelihood of being ghosted:

  • Set clear expectations early: Establish communication patterns from the beginning.
  • Observe behavior patterns: Pay attention to consistency in their actions.
  • Communicate openly: Share your needs and concerns with honesty.
  • Don’t ignore red flags: Walk away if something doesn’t feel right.

How Tawkify Matchmaking Can Help You Avoid Ghosting

For singles tired of ghosting and unpredictable dating experiences, Tawkify offers a personalized matchmaking service. Our matchmakers vet every potential match to ensure compatibility and shared intentions, helping you build meaningful relationships with people who are equally committed.

By relying on Tawkify’s expertise, you can focus on connecting with quality matches while avoiding the stress and uncertainty of ghosting.

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