Not all dates are created equal—just because one type of date works for an extrovert doesn’t mean it will work for their less socially-inclined counterpart. If you’re an introvert, and you’ve found that most of your date ideas have involved way-too-loud restaurants or been socially draining, this article is for you.
We’ve brainstormed some of the best date ideas for introverts that focus on quieter, more intimate settings that help you feel comfortable and allow your personality to flourish. And don’t worry, extroverts—we’re pretty sure you’ll enjoy these, too.
Hop in the car and drive away from the city lights to a spot perfect for stargazing. Do you live in a more rural area? Just set up your stargazing shop right in your own backyard.
This is a quiet date idea that can also open each of you up to intimate conversations. There’s something about looking into the night sky, witnessing a shooting star, and viewing constellations that sparks deep thoughts and big questions about life—things that you can talk with your date about in a safe and romantic setting. Just don’t forget the blankets and hot cocoa if there’s a chill in the air.
Matchmaker tip: Use the twinkling sky as a backdrop for gazing into each other’s eyes, a surefire way to ignite the romantic chemistry.
Plan a Movie Night
Movie nights are go-to date ideas for introverts because, well, you don’t have to talk on end! While there’s no need to speak, if you do need to make a comment about an actor, the plot twist, or anything else, it’ll need to be short and sweet (and quiet). Plus, when the movie is over, you both have something to talk about.
Your movie night doesn’t have to be at the theater. Other ideas include an outdoor cinema, a drive-in, or even a projector set up in your living room or backyard.
Participate in a Cooking Class
Just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you don’t like to chat; perhaps for you, initiating conversation isn’t your strong suit. But planning a date around an activity can take the pressure off of coming up with things to talk about. Enter one of the best date ideas for shy people.
With a cooking class, or any class for that matter, the activity itself presents a crockpot full of topics, like how to really make that aioli or that time you and your mom made something similar in your childhood. Plus, you’ll have plenty of ways to get physically close to each other, like helping each other with rolling out dough or dabbing a stray vegetable peel from the other person’s cheek.
Matchmaker tip: Nudging close to each other through an engaging activity can be a great way to spark some romance.
Make a Dinner Reservation Somewhere Intimate
Oftentimes, people’s dating expectations involve meeting at the most popular place in town for a drink or a meal. But loud bars or restaurants can make trying to have a conversation awkward, if not impossible. For introverts, this can add to the pressure of trying to get to know someone.
For a dinner date, head to a cozy restaurant that isn’t too loud or that has an outdoor area. Here, you both will be able to share in a delicious meal and in each other’s presence without the distraction (or hurdle) of noisy guests or the clanking of pots and pans of an open kitchen. An environment like this is ideal for introverts who might not feel comfortable in settings with tons of people or noise.
Try a Sport Together
Sports like running, biking, tennis, and more are perfect for those of you who like to talk but might not like to talk much. With these activities, you can still have bits of conversation, but the physical activity is the focus—and might not allow for too much chatting anyway. But if you are one of those people who can work out and talk without breaking a sweat, check out these first-date conversation starters.
Matchmaker tip: Sports dates aren’t just great date ideas for introverts; they’re also perfect for people who like to get active with their partner.
Visit a Museum
This is an intimate date idea for the artistic-minded introverts out there. Walk hand in hand with your date throughout the exhibits and chat about each work of art or use a painting or sculpture as a talking point. You can also just sit and contemplate what’s before you—no talking required.
If you both want to practice your sketching techniques, bring along pads of paper, sit near your favorite pieces, and draw to your hearts’ content.
Find a Spot to People Watch
Want to know one of the best ways to spark conversation? People watching!
Head to your city’s downtown area, a tourist spot, or even the airport if you’re jetting off somewhere together. Though there might be moments of silence as you gaze at all the people, we’re pretty sure that this idea will get the humor flowing quickly and you’ll have plenty of things (hair styles, tattoos, those jeans you swear you had in the 90s) to talk about.
Make a game out of it, and create made-up stories about people or guess where they’re headed. The options are endless.
Matchmaker tip: Why is this a fantastic date idea for shy people? The seemingly countless things to talk about as you watch people go by can bring up memories, thoughts, perspectives, and so on that you can share with your people-watching partner, leading to more in-depth conversations that you might have found challenging to start without the activity.
Go to a Concert
Music has a way of bringing people together, drawing people in, and creating romantic and fun environments. Going to a concert for a date is great for introverts and extroverts alike. You can either meditate on and soak in the music on a personal level, as the rest of the concertgoers seem to fade away, or you can stand at the back and talk quietly with your loved one, using the music as the background to your date. (Oh, and another option is belting out the lyrics at the top of your voice.)
However you like to listen to music, try to do so with your partner so you can share in the experience together.
Do Something You Love, Together
When you’re dating as an introvert, you probably need to recharge with alone time, so why not be alone, together?
What we mean by that is to do a quiet activity that can be done on your own—but this time, do it with your partner in the same space. This way, you’re able to have some necessary downtime amid what might be a busy daily life while spending it with your loved one by your side (or across the room).
Here’s what this can look like:
- Read books at home or on a blanket in the park
- Do paint-by-numbers or adult coloring books
- Set up separate hammocks in neighboring trees
Simply being in each other’s presence can be a date, as long as you’re intentional about it.
If you’re still not sure what type of date ideas for introverts will work best for you, try hiring a matchmaker who can help you find a mate who’s suited to you. Tawkify matchmakers even plan full dates for you and take into account your preferences, personality, and more to make sure that your date is a great fit.