Navigating the world of dating can be exciting, eye-opening, and full of special moments with special people. But there can also be times of frustration, especially when you feel that the people you meet aren’t quite hitting the mark. Sometimes these dating speed bumps can keep you from continuing to put yourself out there.
But don’t just wait for your future mate to walk into your life. Manifest them.
What does it mean to manifest love? Manifestation is all about creating the right mindset to achieve a desired outcome, turning an idea into a reality. It requires belief, positive thoughts and emotions, and action. Many people believe that the manifestation mindset can help in various parts of life: from finances to careers and even relationships.
And that’s what we’re here to talk about: how to manifest your dream partner. With these steps, you can start taking a proactive approach to your love life. Read on for our 7 tips!
1. Set Your Intention
To manifest your dream partner, you need to start with who and/or what you desire—because how can you turn an idea into a reality when your idea is too vague?
Make a list of your dream-partner qualities, either on paper, on your phone, or perhaps on a vision board. Try to keep these qualities limited to personality traits or your deal-breakers, rather than physical qualities, hobbies, and so on (the things that might not matter as much in the end).
For example, while it’s nice to share things in common, consider if it’s really that important for your future partner to like country music or love playing video games. Having some separate interests can help you both maintain your individuality throughout your partnership. Plus, you won’t be limited by perhaps unrealistic standards, only meeting people that fit in a certain box.
By specifying the qualities you want in your future partner, you’re setting an intention for what you want to come true.
2. Believe That You Deserve Love
Don’t just wish it—believe it. That’s what manifestation is all about: turning a dream into a reality. And it all starts with your thoughts.
Wanting something and feeling like you deserve it are two separate ideas. Now, this separation is sometimes necessary to be realistic, like in the case of wanting a certain job but not having obtained the secondary degree or necessary training yet. But when you manifest love, these ideas should overlap—because everyone deserves to have the love life they want.
Part of this process might involve breaking down preconceived ideas you have about yourself or the dating process. Believe that you are worthy of love, that everyone has strengths and weaknesses that they bring to any relationship, and that the dating process doesn’t have to look like someone else’s. This can free you from any limitations you’ve put in place that have kept you from finding—or believing that you can find—the person you’re supposed to be with.
3. Put In the Work
Manifesting doesn’t mean that you write it and believe it, and it will simply just happen. You have to work toward your goal.
To attract an ideal partner, start by putting yourself out there. Optimize your dating profile, say yes to new opportunities, meet new people, go on blind dates—you get the idea. Get out of your comfort zone! Stay open because you never know who might enter your world when you least expect it.
At the same time, be sure to date with intention by sticking to that list of qualities you made earlier. For example, if one of your dream-partner qualities is a desire to have a family and your current date is a hard no, then consider moving on. While it’s important to be challenged by different thoughts and perspectives, you also don’t want to spend too much time dating people who don’t fit your partner deal-breakers.
4. Walk the Walk
When you manifest your dream partner, you need to walk the walk. In other words, don’t hope to attract someone who will simply fill in your weak spots.
Consider these examples:
- You want someone who respects you, and you also respect others.
- You want someone who is active and cares about their health, and you also prioritize those things.
- You want someone who loves your family, but you also have the capacity to love theirs.
- You want someone to make you safe and loved, but you also have the ability to care for and love yourself.
Remember that you need to fulfill your own preferred qualities to attract your ideal partner.
5. Think Positive Thoughts
The law of attraction says that the energy you put out into the world is the energy that you will receive. So to manifest love, you need to have positive energy, and part of that is thinking positive thoughts.
Stay focused on your goal, and try not to get bogged down by some potentially unimpressive dates. This can lead to dating negativity, which can not only turn people off during a date but also lead you to believe things that simply aren’t true.
If you find yourself feeling negatively toward the dating process, take some time to do things that make you happy and that help you process and release your emotions. Go for a long bike ride, volunteer at an animal shelter, cook your favorite meal, see a friend. Continuing to do the activities you love is part of mindful dating.
6. Practice Gratitude
One of the most effective parts of manifestation is gratitude. Why? Because gratitude helps you become happier for what you have been given and have a positive outlook on life (and specifically, your love life). This is the energy we talked about earlier with the law of attraction.
If this isn’t part of your daily practice yet, start small! Set aside 5 minutes a day to jot down everything you’re grateful for. As this becomes a routine, you’ll find yourself coming back to gratitude in your thoughts throughout the day.
If you haven’t yet met someone with marriage or lifelong partner material, it can be easy to develop feelings of frustration. But try to be grateful for the steps you’re taking or opportunities you’re given—no matter how tiny—toward finding love.
Perhaps you get a text from a friend saying that they have someone in mind for you to meet. This is one small step in the journey toward meeting your future partner! Or maybe you went on a few dates with someone, but they weren’t quite who you had in mind. This can seem like a let-down, but framing the experience in a gratitude mindset can help you realize that this was the universe’s way of making you more open to someone in the future who will meet your dream-partner qualities.
7. Remember That You Can’t Control Timing
Just because you begin the process to manifest your dream partner, they might not pop into your life right away. Timing is different for everyone, and there are many things that need to align (right person, right place, right time, and so on).
Your dream partner will come into your life when the time is right. Remember that. When it’s supposed to happen, it will.
8. Be Ready for Your Dream Partner
With these tips to manifest your dream partner, you’ll be ready when they enter your life. By setting your intention, taking action, believing that you deserve them, and practicing positivity and gratitude, you’re taking your romantic journey into your own hands and creating the right mindset for finding lifelong love.