6 Perfectly Good Reasons to Date Multiple People
Last week, Tawkify Director of Operations, Julia Armet, sent out an article that created some buzz within the Tawkify team: 6 Perfectly Good Reasons to Date Multiple People — wherein Date Report writer, Scott Alden, suggests it’s peachy keen to date multiple people at once. I happen to agree — as did many of our matchmakers, and Tawkify Co-Founder, E. Jean Carroll.
Consider the definition of the word, dating: “to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being a fully fledged couple.” Dating preludes commitment. In other words, it’s the practice mode — and we all need practice before winning the big game.
Obviously, I do not mean it’s OK to mislead multiple romantic interests into thinking they’re the “only one.” You don’t have to divulge all of your personal business to those you’re dating, but making false commitments and lying about where you stand and how you feel is icky. Don’t be icky.
However, if you’re transparent with your intentions — dating multiple people can be informative, revealing and fun! Enjoy Scott Alden’s briefing on the 6 reasons why…
Valerie Presley Ackler, Heartalytics Editor
6 Perfectly Good Reasons to Date Multiple People
Whether you’re single and loving every minute of it or single and actively looking for “the one,” it is perfectly acceptable to date more than one person at a time. It may not be for everyone, but if you’re open to it, dating multiple people can actually be beneficial to you. Here are 6 reasons why.
1. YOU GET BETTER AT DATING
There’s really only one way to get better at dating. Practice, practice, practice. The wider the variety of dating experience you have, the more often you do it, the better you’ll get. Why is this important? Because the skills you develop through dating (e.g. reading people, confidence, communication self-knowledge, etc.) are many of the same skills you’ll need for a successful LTR.
2. IT TAKES THE PRESSURE OFF
A first date with someone you might really like on a Monday is a bit less nerve-wracking if you’ve got a date with someone else on Wednesday.
3. IT MAKES YOU MORE ATTRACTIVE
Most people would admit that how much they’re interest in a person is influenced at least a little by how many other people are interested in them.
4. IT CAN REALLY BUILD CONFIDENCE
The feeling that more than one person is interested in you can work wonders for your self-esteem, which is ultimately going to help you have the courage to keep looking rather than settle for a relationship that doesn’t feel quite right.
5. IT DEVELOPS YOUR EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Having to determine the differences in your feelings for multiple, specific people and make choices about one person over gets your head and heart talking to each other in ways they might otherwise never do. It’s good exercise.
6. YOU’RE MORE LIKELY TO FIND THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIPS
There is a myth that dating more than one person at a time means that you are not “serious” about finding someone and that you’re just enjoying being single. The truth is, you’re either serious or you’re not, but it has nothing to do with how many people you’re dating. Dating more than one person is actually the best way to figure out who might be out there for you and what you’re really looking for in a long term relationship.
