Dating Coaches for Women

You don’t know what you don’t know. That’s the biggest reason you need a dating coach.

Women often come to me for dating advice saying, “I know I’m doing something wrong; I just don’t know what it is.” I think that’s very true for most people. Women hoping to find their future spouse don’t want to waste any time, so it’s smart to get help. The benefits of date coaching can eliminate anxiety and boost confidence by virtually holding your hand every step of the way.

In heterosexual dating, the odds are stacked in the men’s favor — they say there are 5 single women for every one single man. Thankfully, in today’s world, most people are striving to become the best version of themselves. So, if you want to find a good quality person to marry, you need to be self-aware too. That means paying attention to everything about you. Having a therapist is almost a requirement. However, therapists don’t coach. Therapy is about why you are who you are and how to best handle your issues. Coaching is about how to achieve what you want.

The Role of a Dating Coach

Dating is difficult because people are complex. We all have different wants, desires, and needs; and different ways we go about trying to fulfill them. Finding a forever partner is about understanding yourself, knowing what you need, and asking the right questions without turning off your date. A dating coach will give you personalized emotional support and guidance to choose the right person, and maintain a healthy, loving relationship.   

10 Benefits of Working with a Dating Coach

Dating can sometimes feel like charting unknown territories. This is where the guidance of a dating coach comes into play. Imagine having a compass on this journey that points you in the right direction and teaches you how to read the map of relationships with wisdom and insight. A dating coach offers more than advice; they provide a personalized roadmap to relationship success, tailored specifically to your needs, aspirations, and unique personality.

Here’s how a dating coach can help you date more intentionally:

1. You’re not alone: Having a private, trusted confidant who has many years of experience and specializes in the minute details of dating with no personal bias or judgment is your true best friend.  
2. SMART Goals: Smart stands for Specific, Manageable, Actionable, Realistic, with a Time constraint. Having a smart goal will turn hoping for a spouse into taking action to find love.
3.  Increased Confidence: Confidence means feeling sure of yourself and your abilities. It’s quiet inner knowledge that you’re capable. Confidence is very attractive.
4. Breaking Your Patterns: My favorite expression is nothing changes if nothing changes. Basically, the definition of insanity is to keep trying the same thing and expecting a different result. You need to identify your dating pattern (we all have a pattern) and take action to make better choices.  
5. Navigating the Dating Apps: Knowing which apps are best, creating an attractive profile, how to successfully choose who to meet, or how to meet people without dating apps are all made easier with the help of a dating coach. 
6. Dating Skills: Learning the do’s and don’ts about first dates, and how to get second, third, and fourth dates is a real advantage.
7. Red Flags: Being diligent about identifying and not making excuses for undesirable behavior will prevent you from wasting valuable time with the wrong person.
8. Effective Communication: Texting is now the primary means of communication in dating, and with no tone inflection, miscommunication kills many potential relationships before they even start. Plus, when you connect with someone special, you don’t want to lose them because of poor or confusing communication.
9. Healthy Boundaries: You teach people how to treat you, whether you’re aware of it or not. Consciously expressing your needs, desires, and deal-breakers will help create a lasting relationship.
10. Keep the Love You Find: Most relationships only last 3 to 6 months. You can create a forever partnership if you choose the right partner and don’t self-sabotage to push them away.

Choosing the Right Coach

There is a plethora of dating advice on the internet: some will give you great tips. But be careful, there is a lot of non-accredited bad advice that can hurt your chances of finding true love. It’s the same with dating coaches. Coaching is offered in many different price ranges. I believe it’s not always “you get what you pay for.” You can spend thousands of dollars on a fancy coaching program and still end up single. You can also get quality coaching by the hour to help you situationally. You need to decide which is best for your budget. It can be more affordable to pay monthly instead of all up front. If you can’t afford to hire a coach, at least make sure the things you’re watching or reading on the internet are coming from a reliable source, such as this blog.

Whoever you choose for a dating coach, make sure they have some sort of certification. With the explosive popularity of coaching, I recommend choosing someone with relevant experience. Personally, I’ve been coaching for seventeen years, in addition to decades of personal dating experience. I can assure you that I bring significantly more value to my clients today than I did in my first few years. With the ever-evolving world of dating, you also need someone who keeps up with trends.

The most important thing to look for in a dating coach is easy communication. Coaching is best as a mentor type relationship. You need to feel comfortable to be vulnerable enough to honestly share your feelings. You need a coach who can genuinely hear you and give you insights into what is truly best for you. Most coaches offer a free consultation so you can ask questions about their coaching style and the goals you’d like to set. If you genuinely like each other, it makes coaching smoother.   

What to Expect from Date Coaching

Coaching programs are typically a formulated group of sessions with homework assignments in-between to help you achieve a specific goal. The good ones provide a lot of value in helping you discover who you are and who could be a great partner for you. They teach you skills to better your dating habits. Even if you don’t meet your person during the program, you usually still value the growth you achieve.

Individual coaching sessions can do the same thing at your own pace. Some women just want coaching situationally like going through a breakup, or starting a new relationship to stay grounded so they don’t sabotage it by making common mistakes.

Once you select a dating coach, the first coaching session will explore who you are, the areas you need help, and the goals you want to set. You’ll explore all your options to find your person. Learn which apps are best for you, or how to meet people without dating apps. Matchmaking is a terrific option.

You’ll get out of coaching what you put into it. Your coach will give you the tools, it’s up to you to be open to the process and willing to do the action steps to achieve your desired goals.

The Bottom Line

Two is always better than one, and that is absolutely true when working with a dating coach. As a woman navigating the dating scene, having an ally to empower you to make good choices and act confidently is a valuable resource. Additionally, when things don’t go the way you want, or if someone ghosts you, or hurts your feelings, your dating coach will be there to give you answers and get you back on track. If you’re serious about finding a loving, fulfilling relationship, I encourage you to consider utilizing the expertise of a dating coach. Getting a dating coach might just be the best choice you can make in looking for your life partner.