“Ghosting is the process of ending a romantic (or platonic) relationship by cutting off, blocking, or ignoring your former partner’s attempts to contact you. Basically, when you’re ghosting someone, you’re ending a relationship without acknowledging, explaining, or informing your partner of your intentions.” Wow. Can there be enough words to convey how rude, tacky, immature, cowardly, potentially cruel and utterly ridiculous ghosting sounds?
If you find yourself continually attracted to emotionally unavailable types, check out, “We’ve got to stop procrastinating in unavailable relationships,” and tell us what you think. Why do we sometimes (or always) seek out relationships with people who exhibit clear signs they aren’t “available enough” for a relationship, and are most likely not going to give us what we want or need to be happy in a relationship?
Most human beings thrive in connected, intimate relationships – of course – but some folks seem to need to be in a romantic relationship more than others. Of course all people feel lonely from time to time — sometimes even in the midst of a relationship — this is part of the human condition. However, some report feeling “empty” until they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, as though they are incomplete if not partnered. They find themselves unable to be happy on their own. Can you relate to this feeling?
She once told me it was the sweet innocence of it all that welcomed her in; but in the end, I think it was its wrongness that made her keep fighting long after she should have let go. She enjoyed playing with the complexities of life in that way. You see, even as pups, wolves should never be turned into pets–they just aren’t meant to lead a domesticated life. But when she came across that small creature on her property, barely two weeks old, three pounds, and abandoned–she was a goner. Things changed irrefutably in that instant, for her, and for everyone in her life. I guess that’s why we’re here today…
This week, a reporter for a national magazine rung us up to ask how a gal could know if her fella is “marriage material.” They’re looking for specific “signs” that a boyfriend might be a keeper, and wondered how we might advise a client asking this type of question. Our matchmakers, as you can imagine, had plenty of answers for her. But it got me to thinking–because of course nothing is simple when it comes to people’s love lives–that maybe this wasn’t the right question. Or rather, that this simple question stirred up other questions that feel more fundamental and somehow important, like, “why do people date in the first place?” or, asked another way, “is it correct to assume that everyone dating hopes it will lead to marriage?”
This article is about a happy marriage. And the recovery from it…
Last month, CNN published an article entitled: “Has Tinder Replaced Dating with Hookup Culture?” Feel free to read it all the way through, but mostly it’s one commentator’s perspective on “hook-up culture” in general. For instance, one fellow referenced is named Alex, a guy who works on Wall Street (naturally) who is able to have sex with as many as 100 women a month thanks to app-enabled dating…
We’ve decided to take you along a couple of times a week–with pieces inspired by the wacky, inspiring, confusing, and inspirational stuff we trip over –because we want to see what you think. Each piece will end with a question, because the topic in question has got us itching to continue the conversation. So, please, jump in. As we like to say during our clients’ post-date-feedback, “there is no such thing as TMI” when you’re working with a personal matchmaker, so don’t be afraid to tell us what you really think. Perhaps you’ll inspire additional research, or maybe a survey to query the learned and delightfully opinionated folks in our database for their take, and maybe a follow-up article or two right here on the blog…
EPISODE II OF THE WHAT TO TAWK ABOUT SERIES. CATCH UP ON EPISODE 1 HERE. So what SHOULD you talk about? Everything else! The best relationships begin with a conversation–a two-way conversation. They unfold naturally, organically, as two people introduce their best selves to one another, discovering along the way, and hopefully developing an appreciation for who that other person actually is. (Which is why the very idea of “choosing” a potential mate from a photograph or basic profile is so wholly ineffective.) Good date conversation starters can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”, but are open-ended, with the power to spark a conversation that might last for hours. Some examples…
Since we specialize in first dates, our matchmakers are often asked for appropriate date icebreakers. We curate blind date experiences that we plan and book for our matches. Suddenly face-to-face with a potential new love interest, new clients struggle a little bit for “safe” topics and tried-and-true conversation starters. What should or shouldn’t they say?…
Last week, The Washington Post featured an article by John Birger discussing the prevailing culture of casual hook ups and its present-day mascot–Tinder. According to Birger, the sexualized dating culture is symptomatic of shifting demographics among college graduates. This supply-and-demand explanation only paints a partial picture, however. A deeper dive into American demographic data renders this “dating crisis” increasingly unnerving…
I want the Bay Area again. I want black coffee And your arms around me. I want us drunk on dark beer Or red wine and fresh bread…
